21. Pay attention, parents: Always give your kid a choice that makes them think they are in control.
父母们，注意了：总是给你的小孩选择，让他们觉得自己在控制事情。
For instance, when I want my son to put his shoes on, I say, "Do you want to put on your Star Wars shoes or your shark shoes?"
例如，当我想让我儿子穿鞋时，我会问：“你是想穿上你那双星球大战的鞋子还是那双鲨鱼的鞋子？”
Pro-tip: In some cases, this works on adults.
进一步的小贴士：在某些情况下，这对成年人同样有效。
22. Your actions affect your attitudes more than your attitudes affect your actions.
你的行为影响你的态度，而不是你的态度影响你的行为。
As my former teacher said, "You can jump and dance FOR joy, but you can also jump and dance yourself joyful."
就像我以前的老师说的：“你可以为了开心去蹦蹦跳跳，但是你蹦蹦跳跳就能让自己开心了。”
24. If you want to build rapport or gain someone's trust quickly, match their body posture and position.
如果你想要和某人建立起密切的关系，或者快速得到某人的信任，和他们的身体姿势和位置保持一致。
If someone is sitting with her legs crossed, cross your legs. Matching body position is a subconscious way to tell if someone trusts you or is comfortable with you.
如果某人两腿交叉地坐着，你也双腿交叉。是否和别人的身体位置保持一致是一种判断某人是否信赖你或者和你相处愉快的下意识的方式。
25. The Benjamin Franklin Effect.
本杰明·富兰克林效应。
The pencil one may seem far-fetched, but I find the basis of it (the Benjamin Franklin effect) is very useful and extends far beyond pencil borrowing. This knowledge is useful in the world of flirting too.
铅笔似乎对你来说有些遥远，但是我发现它（本杰明·富兰克林效应）的基础是非常有用的，远远超过借铅笔。这个知识在调情的世界里也很有用。
Asking a girl in your class if you can borrow a pencil or to explain the homework will make her more likely to like you than if you let her borrow your stuff or are the one to help her. The best part is that it kills three birds with one stone: You get the advantages of the favor itself, the person subconsciously likes you more, and it makes them more open to future favors and conversation.
问你们班的一个女生借铅笔或者让她给你讲作业，比你把东西借给她或者你帮助她，更有可能让她喜欢上你。最好的一点就一石三鸟：你得到了帮助带来的好处、帮你的人下意识地更加喜欢你了，而且这件事让他们更有可能在未来继续帮助你或者和你交谈。
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