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25、本杰明·富兰克林效应：借铅笔的办法看似牵强附会，但我发现这个方法的依据——本杰明·富兰克林效应——非常有用，而且能拓展到借铅笔之外的其它事情上，在与异性搭讪的时候也同样奏效。问下你班里的一个女生能不能借你一支铅笔或者笔记，或是给你讲解一下功课，会比你借她东西或帮她更能让她产生好感。即使是让她给你买一瓶饮料（有些滑稽哈），也会比你给她买一瓶饮料留下的印象更深。最妙之处在于这可是一石三鸟：你得到了你想要的帮助；这人在潜意识里更喜欢你；这让他们在你将来的求助或交谈中更为开放。

The Benjamin Franklin Effect：The pencil one may seem far-fetched but I find the basis of it (the Benjamin Franklin effect) is very useful and extends far beyond pencil borrowing. This knowledge is useful in the world of flirting too. Asking a girl in your class if you can borrow a pencil or her notes or to explain the homework will make her more likely to like you than if you let her borrow your stuff or are the one to help her. Even just asking a girl to buy you drinks (facetiously) leaves a much bigger impression than offering to or actually buying a girl a drink. The best part is it kills 3 birds with one stone: you get the advantages of the favor itself, the person subconsciously likes you more, and it makes them more open to future favors and conversation.

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26、如何控制恐惧和焦虑：当你感觉压力巨大、焦虑不安或是生气的时候，用几个词来描述你的烦心事，每想或说出一个词，就轻轻敲一下一根手指，不断重复这几个词，同时敲打包括大拇指在内的十个手指。例如，边敲边说“我很生她的气……”。这能让你摆脱不好的情绪，变得更能随机应变，你的感觉也会更好。这被称为“情绪自由疗法（EFT）”或者“敲击法”，在许多生活状况下都有效，如心情抑郁、生理疼痛、饮食冲动、创伤记忆……

Handling Panic and Anxiety Behavior：When you're feeling stressed, worried or angry, tap each finger tip while thinking (or speaking quietly) a few specific words about what is bothering you. Repeat the same words while tapping each of your 10 fingers, including thumbs. For example, tap while saying, "I'm so angry with her..." Doing so will likely take the charge out of the feeling and return you to a more resourceful (better feeling) state of being. It's called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or "tapping," and it is useful in many, many life situations - emotional upset, physical pain, food cravings, traumatic memories.